Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Hope for the Heart founder June Hunt on HOPE 04/03 by LPN Radio | Blog Talk Radio

Hope for the Heart founder June Hunt on HOPE 04/03 by LPN Radio | Blog Talk Radio


In spite of your circumstances... there is HOPE!!!
Rebellious children, Broken marriage, Health crisis, Economic strife? There is hope for you today!

June Hunt, CEO of Hope for the Heart, author, radio broadcaster, counselor and encourager of all people is here with Linda Goldfarb to share words of Truth that will give you hope in the midst of your trails, storms, and harbored secrets.
June is so REAL about her life and life in general that no matter who you are and where your 'faith' walk is you will walk away encouraged... hopeful.
Find out more about our guest at www.HopeForTheHeart.org

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Living a Legacy-Worthy Life... In Relationships


"People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway." Mother Teresa 

These are good words to live by, but impossible to accomplish in our own strength. 

Our heavenly Father gave us the template to living a legacy-worthy life in relationships, and it begins and ends with LOVE.

 "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protectsalways trustsalways hopesalways perseveres.”  1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV

Here are three to do’s concerning love and relationships found in this passage…

Do More - “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud… 
  • Embrace that others are not like you… and it’s okay.
  • When retaliation seems appropriate… chose love and a gentle touch instead.
  • Claim a humble spirit and be happy with your circumstances.    
  • Remember … if you’re all that and a bag of chips, others will proclaim it, you won’t have to – give God the glory in your life.

Do Less - “…It (love) does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth… 
  • Think before speaking and use words to lift up… not break down.
  • Repeat as needed 'Less of me… more of Thee.'
  • Never choose Anger in haste…
  • Seek forgiveness… give forgiveness
  • Believe that evil binds us… while the truth sets us free

Do Daily – “…It (love) always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
  • Set healthy boundaries – inspect what you expect!
  • Trust anyway... knowing others will fail your expectations.
  • Hope is based on the promises from God – Faith is walking in that hope – be in the Word daily to learn His promises.
  • Failure only occurs when we stop getting back up… quitting is not an option!
I'd love to hear your thoughts... what steps do you take to live legacy-worthy in relationships?

Hugs in Him... 

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Living a Legacy-Worthy Life... in Health

When you hear the term genealogy tree, what visual comes to mind? For most people it's usually the skeleton of a tree - the trunk and branches. Names are placed on one side for the paternal parent and on the other for the maternal parent. we usually don't see a lot of depth in our trees, just the bare facts of who came from who. I believe what we do, our contribution in life, becomes the leaves that flesh out the tree... what we are remembered for becomes our legacy.

Over the course of four weeks I will be discussing four areas we all can leaf (sorry, I had to) a legacy of love in for generations to come. I will begin today in the area of health.

One of my favorite phrases, "Genetics is a tendency... not a destiny!" is a powerful reminder that no matter whose below us on our tree, we always have the choice to learn from them and change. That said, what are you embracing as truth concerning health from your forefathers? No matter what it is, today, you can claim a healthier lifestyle, make some changes and influence generations to come.

What does a healthy-lifestyle look like to you? Is it:

  • Traveling without restrictions.
  • Playing on the floor with your children/grandchildren and getting back up.
  • Desiring intimacy with your spouse and being able to act on it.
This lifestyle is possible when we put actions to our desires... here are a few suggestions you could incorporate today: (Be sure to check with your physician before changing your dietary or physical regimen)

  • Include 30 minutes of physical activity 5 days a week - move it or lose it - make this fun!
  • Drink 1/2 your body weight in fluid ounces of water daily - create a "My Jug/Pitcher" and keep it handy!
  • Discover your Zone of Required Sleep and get it nightly - (set your bedroom up for successful sleep visit LivePowerfullyNow.org for articles on sleep.)
  • Live within your limitations - physical/medical - don't shut down because of them, adapt.
Practice these habits until you can teach them... we are raising a new generation of show me don't tell me young people... it's up to each of us to show up and walk the walk knowing it's the little things we do that make the biggest impression... so what are you doing or will you do to sprout some leaves on your genealogy tree concerning good health?

Monday, January 16, 2012

Emotionally Speaking... Argh!!!

Some days you just want to say, "Enough is enough!" 
This outburst normally occurs at a time when all the whys, whens, and how comes collide into a barrage of - I can't do this anymore
Well no worries, you're not alone... there is hope. It's time to be Taking Out Your Emotional Trash and my friend Georgia can help!

Georgia Shaffer is a licensed psychologist in Pennsylvania, certified life coach, speaker, and an award winning author of several books, here is a question and answer with Georgia on her book "Taking Out Your Emotional Trash
This is my BOOK OF THE MONTH. I've had several friends say they are going through Georgia's book together as a life application study, I encourage you to do the same. Here is the second half of a conversation with Georgia about facing your feelings and building healthy relationships...
… continued from January 9th post
To have healthy relationships, you believe it’s extremely important to understand that different personalities handle loss differently. Tell us more.

When faced with an unwanted change, some personalities like to be around lots of people and talk about their experience. Others prefer to withdraw and privately sort things out. Still others will try to take control of the situation by working harder and seeking the most competent people to help. And then there are those who simply prefer to wait and let things work out on their own.
You need to understand that unless your friend, co-worker or spouse has the same personality as you do, they will handle loss differently. And when your emotions are raw, these differences between those you live and work with will be magnified.
For a free article on this topic (entitled Understanding Our Differences), go to www.GeorgiaShaffer.com and click “free resources.”
In Chapter 5 you talk about destructive and constructive ways of handling anger. Most of us agree that physical and verbal aggressions are harmful but what are some other destructive ways? And how can we express our anger constructively?
Anger is an energy that needs to be channeled in the right direction. Destructive ways of expressing our anger include
  • Making sarcastic or critical remarks
  • Giving the silent treatment – not communicating for days or weeks
  • Withholding something like our affection, time or attention
Whereas some constructive expressions of anger are
  • Exercising
  • Journaling
  • Talking to a safe friend or counselor
  • Righting a wrong
  • Fighting a righteous battle
  • Addressing the relational issue
You write that it’s important to understand forgiveness as both a choice and a process. What you mean by that?
First, forgiveness is a choice—not a feeling. But even when you make the decision to forgive, that’s only the beginning. The next step is to work through the feelings of hurt, anger, sadness or betrayal.
You might forgive someone on an intellectual level, but if you fail to do the emotional work then you won’t heal on a deeper level. Working through the process means you verbalize what happened to you and how you feel about. When you get stuck or want to nurse your grudges, remember what God has done for you and how you’re forgiven. You also want to remember it can take months, even years, to be free of the hurt because we can only handle the pain a little bit at a time.
What would you say to someone who is ready to face their bottled-up feelings—their “emotional trash”–but who is overwhelmed by the task?
Many of us get stuck at one point or another in our lives– that’s normal. Last summer I decided to clean my 2-car garage, which at the time barely had room for one car.
It didn’t take me long to realize that making the choice to clean my garage and actually doing it were two different things. I was overwhelmed by the size of the task. Two months later I still hadn’t done anything.
One friend told me to start in a corner and another friend suggested I do one box or one shelf at a time. But I was still paralyzed by the huge task. Finally, I decided the only way I was going to make any headway was to tackle the job one item at a time. Was I going to throw it out, give it away, or keep it? And if I decided to keep it, where would I store it?
The project took five months to complete. But the transformation was amazing. Now I have more space—enough for two cars—but I also have more energy, more joy, and even more money since I now know what I already have and where it is.
If you’re feeling stuck and overwhelmed, focus on one issue at a time. Ask yourself, “What is the next step for me? What is one thing I can do?” And don’t be afraid to seek the help of a friend or a Christian counselor because some times we can’t do it alone.
Most of us have emotional meltdowns once in a while. What can we do to minimize these meltdowns so we can protect our relationships?
Be honest with yourself and ask, “Why do I resist dealing with my trash?” Are you telling yourself you’re too busy to deal with it or that you have a right to be bitter with, say, your ex? Do you think if you ignore your unresolved anger it will disappear? The problem with not facing your feelings is it usually means at some point in the future you’ll find yourself spending a day—or more—unable to do anything but deal your hurt and pain.
Therefore, you want to create and maintain routines that will help you pay attention to how you are doing emotionally and spiritually. Ask yourself: “How am I doing in my relationships with others? Am I reacting or responding to what’s going on around me? Am I protecting myself from total depletion? Am I getting enough sleep, rest, and exercise?
There’s a free self-assessment at www.GeorgiaShaffer.com under “Free Resources.” Use this tool to check and see how you’re doing on taking out your emotional trash.
Here’s the bottom line. Waste management today can take twenty plastic soda bottles and make a Polertec fleece out of them. But that’s nothing compared to what God can do with your emotional garbage. He’s the master of waste management. He can take your junk and make something beautiful out of it—but you have to be willing to give it to him. As I mentioned earlier we all have emotional trash . . . the question is what are you doing with yours? Are you holding onto it or are you getting rid of it so that you can be free to be who God created you to be?

Well, I pray this interview has been a blessing to you... visit Georgia's website for her FREE resources and more words of encouragement.
Hugs to you until next time... Linda 

Monday, January 9, 2012

Relational Dumpster Diving!

Are you struggling to when it comes to RELATIONSHIPS?
Do you find yourself running back to salvage a friendship gone bad?
Then my friend, you might be considered a "Relational Dumpster Diver!"
... but no worries, I know someone who can help you recover by, "Taking Out Your Emotional Trash"
 Georgia Shaffer is a licensed psychologist in Pennsylvania, certified life coach, speaker, and an award winning author of several books, here is a question and answer with Georgia on her book "Taking Out Your Emotional Trash" This is my BOOK OF THE MONTH and here is the first half of a conversation with Georgia about it...
Q&A with Georgia
Georgia, we can all relate to the job of “taking out our trash,” but what led you to write Taking Out Your Emotional Trash?
Like many listeners, I grew up in a home where I never learned the skills I needed to handle my disappointments, insecurities, or anger in a healthy way. As a result, those hurts and feelings piled up and created more pain in my life. It took me years to learn how to deal properly with my negative emotions.
As a life coach and licensed psychologist in Pennsylvania, I’ve seen how other people struggle with their negative feelings. Too often they wait until a crisis before saying, “I need help.” Unfortunately, it’s usually our closest relationships that bring our junk to the surface and it’s those relationships that suffer the most. I wrote Taking Out Your Emotional Trash to help people dump this junk before they trash their relationships. I want people to experience less stress and more of the energy, peace and joy that comes when we get rid of these potentially toxic feelings.

Could you share with us your definition of “emotional trash”?
I define “emotional trash” as the negative thoughts, feelings and attitudes that accumulate in our hearts and minds and when ignored or denied can lead to strong emotional reactions where we say or do something we later regret.
It’s not that our emotions are unhealthy or dangerous – it’s what we do or don’t do with them that creates problems.
For example, I have a friend whose garbage was not collected one week and so her husband stored it behind a shed in their back yard. A week later, the night before trash day, he carried it back out to the curb. But it wasn’t until he walked into their garage, back into the light, that he noticed maggots crawling all over his sleeves and hands.
If their garbage had been picked up sooner, it would not have become infested—and he would have been spared a creepy experience.
The same thing happens to us when our grudges and unresolved anger are not dealt with properly. They create the emotional equivalent of maggots crawling all over us.

At the beginning of the book you talk about spending a day on a beach filled with trash, and how most of the people walked or played around it as if they did not see it. Then you say we often have emotions that we ourselves don’t see or have grown used to. Can you give me an example?
Resentment is a great example of an unhealthy or destructive feeling that we don’t recognize. It’s like living near a fast food restaurant and getting use to the smell, after awhile we aren’t even aware of its existence.
Several years ago I had to care for my mother after she fell. It was during this time I realized her smallest request like: “Will you buy me some hand cream?” felt like a huge assignment. I usually responded with a snappish response from me. Since this is not the way I wanted to treat my mother I began praying about this. While talking with an old friend from high school, I realized my poor attitude came from some deep resentment I still held from my childhood. I had lived with that resentment some forty years without realizing it. I came to see that my rotten attitude had more to do with what was in my heart than with what my mother expected or needed.
I hear stories like this all the time. For example, one woman told me she realized she still was bitter about her husband’s encouragement to get an abortion thirty years earlier. Like me, she had grown used to her bitterness and was no longer even aware of its existence.

You write about how easily our wants can get distorted into needs. You say wrong thinking and a lack of self awareness can plunge us into a downward cycle. How do we reverse this tendency?
It’s important to understand how our legitimate desires can become warped by wrong thinking. Unless we are paying attention, our unfulfilled desires can plunge us into a downward cycle that looks like this: “I desire fill in the blank” becomes “I need you to ….” or “I demand that you…” And it goes on to become: “And if you fail to fulfill my desire, I will punish you in some way –either by withholding my time and attention or by attacking you verbally.”
To reverse this downward cycle, we must 1) recognize which desires have become something we believe we need, 2) grieve the loss of what can’t and might never be, and then 3) embrace what is. It is only at that point we can learn to live with the tension that comes with having desires and dreams without demanding that God or others fulfill them.

WOW... Georgia has incredible insight when it comes to relationships and her book really tells it like it is... I will continue this Q&A next week.

Click on the book to order your copy today from Amazon Publish Post

Monday, February 28, 2011

Are You Ready For IT?

IT will eventually happen to all of us. Maybe not today or tomorrow but at some point while we are living on this precious planet called earth, "it" will happen. What will you do when "it" does?

Many of us will throw our hands in the air with a gesture of disbelief. Other's will make that phone call to their best friend and exclaim, "I wasn't expecting "it" to happen today!" Then there will be the silent few, who knew "it" was coming all along. They planned, prepared, and postured themselves for the inevitable, and now they are reaping the benefits. Which group do you fall into?

For several years now I have prided myself in doing all the right things to keep body, mind and soul in tip top shape. But as of late, the concept of tip top has slid down to barely hanging on to the side... the moment of IT has arrived...

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It's official... I've become my Mother!!!

Don't laugh guys it works the same way for you. One morning you wake up, look in the mirror and gasp with amazement as your stare through the shaving creme into your father's eyes... when did this happen you might ask? Better yet, what can we do about it?

I'll let you in on a little secret... the inevitable doesn't have to be a scary moment, in fact if you plan it just right "it" can be one of the most exciting times of your life.

Begin today by writing down all of the positive, exciting, unique, outlandish and extraordinary things you can about your mom and/or dad. Talk to your brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts and uncles get stories straight from those who know. Next, find photo's of mom or dad that make you smile or laugh out loud and create an album (online or in book format) and entitle it: Marvelous Muses About Mom! or Delightful Data About Dad! Create a page of memories and the next page a photo, repeat until you are satisfied that you have described your parent in all his or her glory.


Are you asking how this can prevent the inevitable? Umm... it can't, that's why it's called inevitable. But, what it can do is give you more reasons than you have now to really appreciate who your parents were and are today. Once we look into the realness of mom or dad, our view of them will never be the same. Then when the time of "it" arrives we will beam with pride and joy at the prospect of becoming more like the one we love.

Makes me reflect on my faith-walk ... how I look forward to the time I will become as Christ, standing in the presence of my Father.  Now that's a T-shirt or pajama top I'd gladly wear. "It's Official... I've Become My Brother!"

Monday, January 31, 2011

Simplify...

Are you like me?

I have several things going on in my head... I need to visit Mom tomorrow, I need to get everything ready for the new bible study starting this week, the parenting classes beginning on Sunday, the website updates Heather needs, the guest information for my radio show that Heather needs, the laundry I need to fold, the laundry I need to transfer from the washer to the dryer, getting supper on the table, okay... more than several, but it's okay because I'm a multi-thinker as well as a multi-tasker. Umm... why doesn't saying that help me to believe it?

Truth be told, many times I use the term multi-tasker to justify the endless stream of "good" things going on in my life, but in reality my good-thing choices are not always the "God" things I need to choose.

This year... my word is SIMPLIFY!

I have already created clear lines of sight in my kitchen (thank you Marcia Ramsland), make my bed every morning and dress to shoes (thank you Fly Lady), and have begun the excruciating task of organizing my office (for the last time, thank you Carol & Susan). I am now in Simplification Mode and it feels great!

What area of your life do you need to simplify? Your calendar, closets, or kitchen? Well I want to encourage you to get simplified over the next six months if you are ready. I will post my Simplify 2011 Challenge on Wednesday Feb 2, 2011. As we simplify our lives, weight will naturally fall away. I am offering a prize to the biggest loser. Be sure to check it out.